tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14905257.post1503924945234614703..comments2024-03-25T03:17:46.829-04:00Comments on Dr. Mom, My Adventures as a Mommy-Scientist: Another two body couple down in flamesPhD Momhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10863651986930363534noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14905257.post-8524995534622358362007-06-12T02:42:00.000-04:002007-06-12T02:42:00.000-04:00I know this is an old post, but I think I have som...I know this is an old post, but I think I have something to add:<BR/>Two parents working long hours + having a rather long commute usually doesn't work well. Small emergencies occur quite a lot, and usually one parent decides it is too much, and moves closer to home. Usuallay the mother, and sometimes even if there isn't a good professional alternative. If there is a good alternative now, I would chose working close to home. Loosing an hour and a half a day on the road is lots of time that could be spent better.עינתhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15051477047329286347noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14905257.post-53577084215830761572007-04-17T23:52:00.000-04:002007-04-17T23:52:00.000-04:00This seems like the classic choice between work an...This seems like the classic choice between work and family. There's no right answer, but it seems like limiting the commute to only the days it's absolutely needed is a hopeful compromise. <BR/><BR/>I did that for one semester, granted it was twice as far, but the only thing that made my twice a week commute feasible was that I did not have to attend meetings or advise students!Field Noteshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18372584643389870376noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14905257.post-42040444170886173652007-04-11T10:40:00.000-04:002007-04-11T10:40:00.000-04:00I agree with you -- there does have to be a better...I agree with you -- there does have to be a better way.<BR/><BR/>Any ideas?<BR/><BR/>My favorite is ... (drum roll, please) ... telecommuting. At least for the times that one isn't teaching or using specialized equipment. For many of us, that's most of the time. There is no reason for institutions not to support it.<BR/><BR/>In the instance you pose, for example, if each were permitted to telecommute during the two days a week they were not teaching or having office hours, a 45 minute commute the other three days would be a bargain!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14905257.post-24042305025803706022007-04-09T17:32:00.000-04:002007-04-09T17:32:00.000-04:00We've seen in many places that the 2-body problems...We've seen in many places that the 2-body problems sometimes creates extra problems when there are all sorts of negative assumptions about why you or your spouse got where you are. That's something worth considering. 45 minutes isn't really that long a commute for some, and then again, for some it's interminable. It depends on what the 45 minutes consists of--easy highway driving, easy country backroads, gridlock all the way? Is childcare an easy option at either institution? Does that significantly limit the time the other parent can spend with the child if they decide to have one? Or several? <BR/><BR/>Worse, though--does rejecting the good, financially more attractive position put a larger strain on her marriage?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14905257.post-50457442291604246662007-04-09T12:44:00.000-04:002007-04-09T12:44:00.000-04:00Always hard to say something for an outsider not k...Always hard to say something for an outsider not knowing the circumstances. But my gut goes for the commuting option. First, 45 min isn't THAT long. And second, the better job with its better opportunities might make a later change easier.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com