tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14905257.post113052909034343547..comments2024-03-25T03:17:46.829-04:00Comments on Dr. Mom, My Adventures as a Mommy-Scientist: Kids, academic career, how do you handle it all?PhD Momhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10863651986930363534noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14905257.post-57542955563119903022007-08-18T01:04:00.000-04:002007-08-18T01:04:00.000-04:00Hi, I am a mother of a two month old and just begi...Hi, I am a mother of a two month old and just beginning my phD, it felt very reassuring reading your thoughts, there is hope!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14905257.post-1156580111308855672006-08-26T04:15:00.000-04:002006-08-26T04:15:00.000-04:00Here are my top tips for succeeding at both.1. don...Here are my top tips for succeeding at both.<BR/>1. don't waste time or energy feeling sorry for yourself (that's a toughie)<BR/>2. schedule schedule schedule - kids need schedules anyway<BR/>3. work late at night after the kids are asleep<BR/>4. do occasionally sneak out during the day to stop at your favorite store (personally, I like a local thrift shop around the corner from my institution). Funny thing is that I see other professor moms there too! <BR/>5. Marry the right guy. My husband and I really are a well-oiled machine when it comes to household chores. And don't constantly try to figure out who is getting the short end of the stick. Invariably, you will both feel that way and it is another waste of your precious energy and time to dwell on perceived disparities.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14905257.post-1156579718046991452006-08-26T04:08:00.000-04:002006-08-26T04:08:00.000-04:00I remember frantically looking around for a role m...I remember frantically looking around for a role model, especially when I was about half way through my postdoc and had just had my second child. I was clinging to a particular woman who turned to me one day (we were in a parking lot and I'll never forget the exact spot) and said "Please don't say I am a role model for you because it puts too much pressure on me." Little did I know, but she was about to quit science all together. She was about my 4th role model to do so. All had Ph.D. husbands and all had kids. The entire focus shifted to the man's career. Well, I decided then and there to stop wasting my precious energy looking for outside role models and to become my own. Since then, though, I have run into moms with great careers in my field, but I still prefer to just focus all my energies into my own path (although I do mentor younger women). Good luck all!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14905257.post-1137107113126160902006-01-12T18:05:00.000-05:002006-01-12T18:05:00.000-05:00Thanks for sharing your story Dr. Mom. I'm a doct...Thanks for sharing your story Dr. Mom. I'm a doctoral student in my first semester of studies and have a 4 month old baby. It is great to read about another mom that has gone down the road I'm just starting. Please keep blogging! Best wishes!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14905257.post-1130539783535221562005-10-28T18:49:00.000-04:002005-10-28T18:49:00.000-04:00hELLO,My best friend is a mother of two and is cur...hELLO,<BR/>My best friend is a mother of two and is currently pre-med. She told me to quit freaking about my situation and " read a blog or something" to find a person in a similar situation to identify/relate/be inspired by. Well I did. Yours is the first blog I have ever read! really! I am a single mother and I desperatly want to pursue a phd. I think that your outline for keeping sane/on top of things comes in handy and I can see how I have developed some of the same tactics for dealing (although our lives aren't very similar). Thanks for sharing and thanks for inspiring.Portland Garment Factoryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14302975366011646817noreply@blogger.com